is summer vacation! For children, this means a solid three-month break from classes, homework and after school activities. For parents, it can mean trying to fill time with things to do. Many parents see summer as an opportunity to sign their children for a lot of fun activities. After all, you do not want the kids to get bored, right?
While parents often have the absolute best in signing their children to dance classes intentions, music lessons, camps, swimming, sports leagues summer and more , going overboard can actually have a negative impact. There is such a thing as overloading activity.
If your child does not have a break from activities occasionally can lead to stress. As adults need downtime from the hustle of daily life, so do children. You may think that the summer activities will not be stressful, as are all the fun activities in nature, but for many children, a busy schedule is exhausting.
Prolonged stress can lead to all kinds of negative health consequences – both physical and mental – and parents certainly do not want that for their children. For the sake of your health and sanity (and yours), make sure there is room to breathe between activities. This goes for the summer holidays and during the school year as well.
At the top of the stressor, some psychologists say that when children do not have time to “get bored”, who do not have the opportunity to dedicate their creativity and discover their own interests. According to Lyn Fry , a child psychologist based in London:
“Your role as a parent is to prepare children to take their place in society. Being an adult means that takes you and fill leisure time in a way that will make you happy. If parents spend all their time to fill the leisure time of their children, then the child You never are going to learn to do it themselves. ”
Regarding the issue of boredom, usually perceived as a negative state of being, Fry adds
“there is no problem that gets bored … I think children need to learn to get bored in order to motivate themselves to do things Being. boring is a way to make children self-sufficient. ”
Fry is not the only psychologist who feels this way. In his book published in 1993, kiss, tickle, and bored: Psychoanalytic Essays on the unexamined life, psychoanalyst Adam Phillips wrote
“it is one of the most oppressive demands of adults that the child should be interested, rather than take time to find what interests you. boredom is an integral part of the process of taking your weather “.
While there is nothing wrong with scheduling activities for your child, keep it to a minimum. You must climb schedule especially if your child seems stressed, tense or tired. Children learn a lot of classes and fields, but make sure it is something they enjoy, rather than something they are suffering through, or do not have the energy for. Talk to your children about what they would like to do during the summer. Assumptions often lead to mistakes, even when it comes to the best intentions.
If your children complain that they are bored during the summer, let bored! Of course, spending time with family is excellent: this could be family time that is “bored” together, and family fun activities making time. However, when it is time for children to play in their own, encouraging them to find things to do.
If you are playing in the street, they have plenty of nature to explore! If you are indoors, they provide them with some materials such as paper, adhesives, crayons, books and clothes of game (just some suggestions), and grow their creativity!
– Tanya Rakhmilevich