Congratulations !! You’ve finally made an entry into parenthood. It is loaded with great joy, enthusiasm and satisfaction and will soon face some wonderful and unexpected changes in your life. Stressful and exhausting nine months of pregnancy appears worth when you hold your little one in his hand, when he cuddles in his arms when you smile and when you know that both worlds is like that of others.
However, there will be times when your emotions are in conflict. Joy, happiness and excitement of having a baby will be suffocated by fatigue, exhaustion and caretaking demands 24/7. Sometimes, you express anger toward your baby, but soon become guilt. You will not be able to do anything with the routine as her little helpless baby now set your daily routine. Since its wake eat, work, sleep or any other activity, all they governed by the activity of your baby.
Recall that Johnson and Johnson advertising campaign that show how having a baby changes all the pain that is, the feeling of the baby more than anything else, who enjoys working with one hand and holding the baby in another, understanding all tracks of that little life. Bingo! The announcement really hits the truth. It’s a great feeling to be a mother so that you accept the changes with a smile. Otherwise, have a baby can take its toll on you.
Undoubtedly, the changes are always there, but the changes are not bad. The first few months or a year may be surprised with the transformation, but soon the recognition and the response to it will feel connected and needed. You will learn to manage and adjust. However, before you should know what is expected that all good or bad changes after having a baby.
Knowing about changes can prepare you so that you do not shout about the dramatic changes in his life.
After a baby, you are sure to join a big club called club of parenting that will have a lot of mothers, young children or babies enjoy long hours of discussion about the baby. Smiling at strangers worshiping the baby or the children of others will be your new activity. Now, you no longer feel annoyed with the children of other annoyances that instead smile thinking of his own.
On the other hand, his social life, which was before the baby is an idea very far. Out with friends, watching the film with his partner, home visiting relatives or attending any social gathering, you need to think a thousand times.
Now that you are no longer free and independent person to plan his schedule in his will. Now it will become a managing any work while the baby in hand multitasking super woman. Prepare food with one hand busy with the baby and another moving a ladle, humming lullabies for your baby to make sleeping and working on the laptop to another, picking things up in one hand and holding the baby in another, dancing to feed him, management in the bathroom with him, be some common incidents in their daily lives.
No matter how strong you were like a couple, even the strongest relationships are being tested during handling baby problems. Their relationship officially shook for a few initial months.
However, despite all these ups and downs in their relationship, both a new share bonus, the bonus of being parents to a beautiful, innocent and charming life. The two have a common reason to celebrate. No matter how much your relationship is affected, but one thing is the same, emotions to your baby that will bring the two closer. The same baby had created differences between you bring smile, laughter and happiness on their faces.
Seeing the weight of the growing baby during pregnancy can be the most satisfying thing. However, the same weight shedding becomes the biggest challenge after pregnancy. Increasing their breast size, which is often permanent. Sagging abdomen that resists wear attire desired. No wonder was left while looking in the mirror. Above all, the lack of time to stop putting all efforts to reach prepregnancy weight adds to their concerns.
Apart from this, chronic fatigue, physical discomfort due to delivery, lack of sleep, 24/7 demands care and body aches his fall excitement.
His thoughts are occupied by feelings of anxiety, worry, joy and pure love. You try without hard rest to be a good father. You want to give the best care and protection the baby out with the right upbringing. Every second, every moment of his life has become full of her / him.
His perspective changed to the world makes it considered dangerous and frightening for the baby. Carelessness and ignorance has left their world as they have become careful with every movement of your baby. Now, you not admire a rose close just because the baby is in your hands. However, try to see the world through the eyes of the child for whom; It is a wonderful and amazing thing.
The feeling of being a mother will give you tremendous confidence. Nothing has changed, but still self-reliant, responsible, mature, caring and loving person inside you will feel.
His love and respect for their own parents would have increased considerably as you can understand very well the emotional turmoil that had faced.
hoping to be a father first category is the desire of all. However, sometimes we want a break from our baby, but soon clouds with guilt. Do not blame this feeling as this is perfectly normal.
Patience has become more important at this time and you accept it. Unlike the days before pregnancy, now does everything your baby wants you to do. You know move somewhere first baby feeding means, packing her things, she changed and then leave. However, it takes much longer but you have learned adjustment. Now you can wait for your things while the baby is in priority.
alarm clocks at home are of no more, because your child is again the best and perfect alarm for you. You have learned to get out of bed on time and finish their stuff in time.
By now, you may fall for scrap and street food to satisfy your culinary whims. However, it will now begin to respect your body as this will be the greatest support when caring for your child. On the other hand, are known to fall into the most healthy and nutritious foods will instill the same habits of your child. In addition, it will also boost the health of your baby when he / she is still feeding. You or your husband now eliminate any unhealthy habits like drinking or smoking.
Now, you no more annoyed with the lack of sleep. Soon it fit though; They are most of the night.
While in public, you do not feel any hesitation or discomfort making faces and talking in sign language with his innocent defenseless child. Public comments and congratulations less affect you now. In a way, he will live his childhood again. You are happy to be with your baby anywhere, anytime, any day.
bodily functions like poop, vomit will not make you more repulsive.
Earlier, when he wanted something, had to have it by hook or by crook. However, now you may have to prioritize things differently financial insecurities can only disturb him. Yourself will be saving more to ensure the best education for your child.
One should make your mind to withdraw from work or opt for a long maternity leave before having a baby. No matter, what matters is their work; you will have to spend at least six months completely for baby care. Even after that, you will be a commitment on several things like dropping promotions because it brings more responsibility, say no to challenging projects, avoiding work unsociable hours or deny some official games while managing your work and home at the same time. Some new mothers do not meet the challenge of managing these two big jobs together and end up quitting their job. This creates financial burden of his family expenses have increased without any wage increase.