hyperemesis is morning sickness ramp up to the maximum. The name literally means “vomiting hyper” and that pretty much sums. It affects between 0.5 and 1.5 percent of pregnancies, and varies in severity and duration. Some women are unable to keep anything (solid or liquid) for months, even for pregnancy.
My wife has been through it twice, and it was absolutely horrible. She could not keep anything down. He visited hospitals to get your fluids topped up. It was generally reserved medicines for patients undergoing chemotherapy. rotted teeth. She was confined to bed, isolated and depressed.
I felt I had to hold on, be strong, take over. Most of the time I did, but sometimes felt dejected, helpless and completely useless to me. I felt guilty because I was not the one throwing up.
were hit before they even announced the pregnancy, so I could not talk about it.
The second time, with a child running, I ended up doing a stint as a single parent while being a caregiver for my wife. I could not work, my son was not sleeping well, and we moved house at that time too, because we clearly have an amazing sense of timing.
I am in no way qualified to advise women on how to deal with hyperemesis, but I learned some lessons that could be worth sharing with other partners hyperemetics out there.
can not “fix” this, but you can help
The first thing someone wants to do when your partner gets help , nurse, and make them feel better. Some, like me, obsessed with finding a “cure”. During the first pregnancy of my wife who was Dr. Google, web browsing after site for morning sickness “cures”. I have tried to give salty food in the morning, toast, ginger tea, ginger tablets, warm ginger, acupressure bands, barley sugars and vitamin B3. I even found an application that was supposed to play sound through headphones to prevent nausea. I managed to put it out of ginger for a couple of years later – apparently it hurts a lot that are returned
And nothing worked .. Every time I went to kick myself, jump back into the computer and Google “cures morning sickness” again.
If your partner is suffering from hyperemesis, it is likely that nothing will work, apart from medication from a doctor. (And for us, this loss of effectiveness over time anyway.)
I did not bother to treat all cures second time. I just supported my wife, she was responsible for our child, and what I could to keep him company. That is the best place to direct your energy :. The key is to help, not solve
care for children
If you have a little one (or few) running already, this experience has become infinitely more difficult. Sorry, but it’s just the way it is. Prepare to operate as a single parent for a while.
Young children do not understand what is happening, what could be more somber than usual. Mom suddenly is unable to do all the things I used to do, and have to deal with that. They also have to deal with you more emotional fragility, and all his sadness, fatigue and stress. Children are emotional amplifiers – if you feel sick, tired or anxious collect it and increase the volume
roll with the punches, take into account what children are going through, and be there for. they. They need you now more than ever. Try to stay on top of things and keep your life as stable and consistent as possible. And give them lots of hugs – they need almost as much as it does
does not weigh me a minute !. He came to my son and made me a better dad. You have to take all the silver linings can be found.
take care of yourself
this is happening to the person you love. And hurts. And I know you think you can not talk about it because that would be whinging. That would be weak. That would be what is “all about you” when you’re not even the one with the real problem, right?
During her second pregnancy my wife was not working. I had to take more than three months out and be a father to our child full time while taking care of her. It was a challenge. I broke to mourn more than once. Our son did not sleep well. I lost my partner. I worried. I was exhausted. Money was a problem.
I learned that it is necessary to talk about it. You need to take care of himself and has to accept that is rough on you too. Keep doing things. Keep going to the gym, keep baking cakes, keep reading, keep playing music, keep writing or singing or playing board games. Staying healthy. Of course it will make sacrifices, but your partner does not need a martyr -. You need
Also make sure that you are being looked after. Get help for yourself and your family. Call grandparents, friends and family – especially if you’re struggling. Get the kids hold hands for a while, have an extra day in child care, if possible, take advantage of offers of meals. Do not feel bad for help, and do not feel bad for asking.
If your partner is suffering from hyperemesis, life will suck for a while. I have no magic solutions or easy answers. But – and I want you to remember this – it will improve, and you have a baby at the end. Remind him that too
Credits :. essentialbaby